Men, I was at the gym today reflecting on Herd 90 and how adding a challenge like this can sometimes take away from our families and our wives. I honestly think this is something that should have been said before starting Herd 90 or when beeing asked to add more commitments. Leading our families doesn’t mean continually adding more to our already busy lives. True leadership means evaluating our lives and being willing to remove things if we’re going to add something new.
As a man who does not have a wife and who has chosen to live that way, at 58 years old, with some years and experience behind me, I find it easier at times to step back and observe the lives of men who do have wives and young families. Often, a wife or family will say, “It’s okay, you can add more,” but many times we hear their words without truly seeing their hearts. Life isn’t just about hearing, it’s about nurturing the hearts of our wives and families.
When we add more without recognizing their hearts, over time wives and families can begin to feel neglected or even abandoned.
Before stepping into something like Herd 90 or taking on more commitments, we should first evaluate what can be removed. As meaningful as this challenge is, nothing but God is more important than our wives and our families.
We all have to balance the challenge with that of your family. The investment in HERD 90 is also an investment in my family, my community and my team at work.
Blessings brother! #Aaaaahhoooo